HAPPY LIFE VS. MISERABLE LIFE

       We have learned that despite difficulties, we should continue our journey. As we continue our path, it is inevitable to experience happy life and miserable life. This article will lay down some of the author’s happy moments and miserable moments and how these miserable moments help the author to stand and experience happy life. This will also teach you how to maintain a happy life and neglect miserable experiences to have longer life.

        To start with, I would like to share what I have considered, “at first”, as a happy life. At grade five, I won in a raffle draw sponsored by the Coca-Cola in the amount of three thousand five hundred pesos (Php. 3,500.00). I was amazed to receive the said money. For me, it’s already a big money for new shoes and clothes.

Winning is really what I want. I want to win in the battle always and making myself excel from others. Those situations make me happy! When I received medal as a “Cum Laude” grauduate and my father put it on my neck, I felt I were on the top of the world. When the private and public schools hired me as teacher, when I passed the board examination, when I studied law and passed the Bar Exam were few of my happy moments.

        But the most memorable moment of my life is when my father put the medal on my neck as a sign of fulfillment. Until now, I can still remember how I make my father proud of me and how I am proud of my father. I always have teary eyes when I always share that experience.

                                    

When we are happy, many people described it as if we are on top of the world, or it’s a cloud nine experience. Our smiles depict of real happiness. It cannot be kept nor save it for another day. Happiness is immediate but lasting! Happiness will always be remembered in our hearts. It is there, dig it!

Happiness gives us beautiful mood, a mood that our doctors want in order to alleviate illness.  It is also a mood which attracts many people into a beautiful relationship. A problematic relationship may be cured and turns into a brighter partnership.

Wearing smiling face makes the world smiles at you. Happiness is also called a medicine to defeat aging. Muscles that are already sleeping in our faces may be stretched out and make it active again due to proper blood flows. No one will let go of happiness. We don’t want that happiness will escape from our sight. However, life will not be normal without experiencing miseries. Life is big dream without miseries. Lastly, life is meaningless without sadness.  Based on my experience, I want to tell you why.

At the age of twenty-one (21), my father died. I cried and was very sad because of what was happened. It was a misery that is inevitable. Everybody dies and that is a fact! But, why are we sad when we lost our love ones?

Miserable life is really damaging. It burst our sense of emotion. In fact when others cannot accept it, they will commit suicide. Acceptance is a cure of despair. If there is Laugh Out Loud (LOL), there is also Cry Out Loud (COL). Let tears fall, allow it to dry up. Why not? When we face the world, let others judge you. If you want to be alone, then fine! Stay alone or at least stay away from others if you really can’t get away with it for a moment. But, face it! Failure is a fact! It is done!

Make their criticisms the ladder to step up! What we can do is to prove them wrong. Stand up and step up to the ladder! You are near of your journey. Don’t step down. Don’t let it ruins your beautiful life. Don’t kill yourself. Never surrender the battle but surrender your strength to the LORD.

Miserable life is really miserable. It is really sad. But you still have a weapon! You still have your life! Life rolls, it makes you up and sometimes down. Make it up again. Mind you, you can do it!

Don’t fear to face misery. Embrace it. Real happiness is not really possessing material things. Real happiness will be experienced if we crossed the bridge of misery. As I told you, embrace misery because it’s a situation where you can gain strength. You learned from all those miserable experiences. Step up my friend. If you experience a miserable life, I will tell you, HAPPINESS is almost in your hands.

I would like to share with you what I have learned while attending a mass. The priest during his homily shared about how to live a happy and longer life and I would like to borrow what he had shared to the attendees. I consider it worthy to share because it relates with this article. The priest pointed out the factors to consider in living a happy and longer life. I would like to add as well that what the priest shared can be done while experiencing a miserable situation.  Here are the following;

        1. Eat half. This factor encourages us to limit our food consumption everyday. Diet is a common word to make the ladies sexy and lads fit. But limiting our food every meal’s main function is to have a healthy body. Too much is bad. So, why not eat half from what you normally consumed.

        2. Walk double. Doing exercise a day prepares or conditions our body for the strenuous activities for the day or the next. Walk double means exercise double to perspire in order to burn calories in our body.

        3. Laugh triple. Laughter is the best medicine. Why not keep laughter in the house to keep everyone not only happy but also healthy.

        4. Love without measure. Unmeasurable love is a wonderful gift, a gift that we cannot buy but can be shared. It is not an expensive gift because a simple service could be considered a simple gesture of love. The words “I love you” may be uttered to a person but action with the said words speaks the loudest. Love others without measure and God will love you too unconditionally.  

        Brothers and sisters, live a happy life while experiencing in a difficult situation. Always remember that while experiencing miseries, think always that “Happiness is near”. Think positive! As inspired by Tony Robbins in one of his motivational speeches, he said happiness can be achieved by stepping up. He added that making standards, doing rituals, and identifying your compelling vision complete the ideal happiness. I agreed with this formula.

        Making standards like living a life of what you can be is true. For example, if I want to become a lawyer, I should think like a lawyer and I should act like a lawyer. Those are my standards. How to achieve of becoming a lawyer? I should do the rituals of being a best lawyer like reading law books or jurisprudence everyday, I should exercise to refresh my mind and I should study hard to pass the bar examination. The compelling vision of becoming a lawyer will not be achieved if you always promise of reading without doing it.

It will not be achieved if your rituals will not be continued everyday. Studying law is really miserable. Reading big books without pictures is really very hard. But live with those miseries. Embrace it! I am sure it will result into a real happiness and you will live a progressive life that you want to live with. 

(PS: The author is not the owner of the pictures herein. Thanks to the owners!)